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words i wish people used more
- lovely (exquisitely beautiful.)
- adore (love and respect [someone] deeply.)
- iridescent (showing luminous colours that seem to change when seen from different angles.)
- stunning (extremely impressive or attractive.)
- opulent (ostentatiously rich and luxurious or lavish.)
- magical (beautiful or delightful in such a way as to seem removed from everyday life.)
- spectacular (beautiful in a dramatic and eye-catching way.)
- constellation (an easily recognized group of stars that appear to be located close together in the sky and that form a picture if lines connecting them are imagined.)
- precious ([of an object, substance, or resource] of great value; not to be wasted or treated carelessly. used as a term of address to a beloved person.)
- delight (a strong feeling of happiness. great pleasure or satisfaction. something that makes you very happy. something that gives you great pleasure or satisfaction.)
- resplendent (attractive and impressive through being richly colourful or sumptuous.)
- enthralled (capture the fascinated attention of.)
- decadent (luxuriously self-indulgent.)
- luscious ([of food or wine] having a pleasingly rich, sweet taste. richly verdant or opulent.)
- glamour (the attractive or exciting quality that makes certain people or things seem appealing or special. enchantment, magic.)
- enamoured (be filled with a feeling of love for.)
- ephmeral (lasting for a very short time.)
- remarkable (worthy of attention; striking.)
I find it fascinating that people who choose not to have children are generally assumed to feel really strongly about not having children (or even to feel really strongly against children, anyone’s children, in general). I am probably not going to have children, not because I REALLY REALLY HATE the idea of having children, but because I don’t really really love it. Out of all the major decisions I will make in my life, this one is the only irreversible one. I can sell a house, quit a job, divorce a spouse, whatever. I cannot unhave a child. I cannot opt out of being a parent once I become a parent. I can’t even take a step back for the sake of self-care or whatever, or else my child will suffer.
So for me, having children is fuck yes or not at all. The default will be to remain childfree. Having children should be an opt-in decision, not an opt-out one. Until/unless I develop really strong feelings about wanting to have children, I won’t have them, even if that means I never end up having them at all.
This is really, REALLY well put.